Respect: no single grief script
Silence, avoidance, or attendance differ—that is fine. The risk is turning uncertainty into blame. Swap long emotional debates for two baselines: budget cap and taboos first; remembrance style can be decided a week later.
With minors, protect predictable routines: pickups, evening phone handoff, muting chat floods—paper beats vague comfort.
Transparency: third-party readable
Transparency means a stranger can recap your folder in ten minutes: contract path, renamed payment shots, milestone SMS captures, role sheet. If you cannot recap in three days, granularity is still insufficient.
Facing fuzzy clauses, reuse the five-question script in your own dialect—what matters is written replies, not vibes.
Traceability: short chains beat pretty decks
Traceability is not notary-grade—often chronological screenshots plus one timeline paragraph suffices early in disputes. Avoid voice-only threads; paste one sentence confirming total or delivery day.
Keep internal reviews under fifteen minutes: only “update contact template?” or “add one red line?”—skip lengthy catharsis that risks re-trauma.
What we explicitly do not provide
We do not provide counseling or grief therapy design, legal opinions, naming vendors good/bad, complaint drafting, or religious rulings—nor ethics verdicts on euthanasia; those belong with clinicians and household values.
For disposal, burial, or licensing rules, follow current local authority text; if our examples conflict, law wins—tell us so we can revise.
If copy conflicts with a newer local rule, send a short summary plus an official link via app feedback or the help hub—we prefer narrowing claims over fake universality.